Signs of Bad Parenting
83Are you a Good Parent or a Bad one?
Have
we not heard that Bad Kids come from Bad Parents? There are several signs of bad parenting. The actions of the Parents speak more in
front of the children than just the words. As the first teachers of a child Parents are the first influence in the life of the
child and the
attitude, views, goals, perspective on life etc of the child depends to a larger extent on
what he learned from parents. What a child learns in the initial years from parents are known to have a lasting impression on the mind of the child which is why good parenting is an absolute necessity.
Is Bad Parenting damaging your Child? Whenever a child commits a mistake or lack mannerisms it is noticed that the blame is mostly put on the parents. What are the signs of bad parenting? What are the effects of Bad Parenting on children? How to be a perfect and good parent? These are some questions many parents and non parents want an answer to. I am trying to answer these Questions through my Hub. Feel free to give your inputs by way of comments. Given below are some Bad Parenting Signs and effects it can have on children.
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Signs and Effects of Bad Parenting
The first thing a Parent or prospective parent should realize is that you cannot be a perfect parent in all aspects. As human beings we are prone to make mistakes but one has to learn from the mistakes and correct them and not let it affect the children. Managing the tantrums, mistakes and mischievousness wisely can help in making your child a complete citizen. Though it may not be easy to be a perfect parent at least you can try as much as possible to be a good parent. No two children are alike and the life of being a parent is a constant learning process.
Many of us (including me) have suffered from the effects of Bad Parenting. As for me I have had a neglected childhood where I have been forced to stay away from parents from the tender age of 5 and also from favoritism. I am sure that there are many who have suffered as a child. But it is up to you to whether you want to take it negatively or make it positive. What I have suffered made me a much stronger person and made me to promise myself to be a better parent and never let my children suffer the way I did. Given below are some Effects and Signs of Bad Parenting.
How to be a Good Parent?
The best way to be a Good Parent is by avoiding the signs of bad parenting. Given below are 8 Signs of Bad Parenting.
1. Avoiding and Neglecting your Child: Neglecting the child physically or emotionally can affect the child in a negative manner. Child neglect is a very common type of child abuse. Child abuse is more than physical abuse. Ignoring the needs of children, putting them in unsupervised or in dangerous situations, making the child feel worthless etc can affect the child and leads to the child feeling very low of themselves and may lead to loneliness in them. Many times this can affect the mental health or social development of the child and may even leave lifelong psychological scars. A child needs to feel loved and cherished.
2. Physical and Verbal Abuse: Exposing the child to physical violence or verbal abuse can be very damaging to a child’s psychology. Most children are victims of verbal abuse from their parents. Many Parents are seen venting out their frustrations at their children without realizing what sort of psychological damage you are inflicting on your child. Such acts can also lead the child in losing confidence and developing inferiority complex. Punishment is required when a child does something wrong but when they are extensively punished for even small matters it may lead to them being rebellious. A child requires physical contact with the parent like hugs, kisses or other signs of affection. If you are yelling at your child, calling names or telling that he or she is no good, you are passing the wrong message to the child.
3. Encouraging Bad Behavior in Children and not Disciplining: There are many parents who do nothing to discourage the bad behavior or wrong mannerisms in the child and keep a blind eye on their behavior. As the saying goes what you sow is what you reap. If you are someone who shout or use bad words in front of children it is only natural that the child would also follow the footsteps. Perhaps that may be the reason why children of drunkards or smokers find nothing wrong in the habit and may start drinking or smoking at a very small age. The parents are also in no position to stop them as they themselves are in the habit of smoking or drinking. Fighting or indulging in physical or verbal abuse in front of the child also is not a sign of a good parent. So it is important for a parent to be a good example for the child to follow.
4. Favoritism or Partiality: Favoritism or Partiality can be very damaging to the child as well. In many households boys get a preferential treatment making the girl child feel useless or neglected. Be it education, food or essential requirements girls are often known to suffer starting from their own homes. Many parents even have the habit of complaining to others about your children. Some others have the habit of grumbling or complaining about anything or everything in front of parents than dealing with the problem. Parents who are overly criticizing and comparing children with other children are also only causing damage to the children.
5. Forcing choices on Children: It is very true that a Parent knows what is best for his or her child. But many times the parents are seen forcing their choices on children without considering the interests, intelligence level or capacity of the child. Many parents are very demanding and look at achieving their dreams and ambitions or what they could not personally achieve through their children. But when the child could not mark up to the expectations of the parent it can be very de-motivating and disappointing to the child. A child requires encouragement and motivation from parents and demoralizing and de-motivating them can affect them adversely.
6. Not being wise with Money: Many parents are not very wise with the money as far as children are concerned. While some cater to every whim and fancy of the child while some others are excessively stingy with money which may result in the child into stealing to fulfill their needs. At the same time, those children whose every need is fulfilled may fail to realize the real value of money and may even indulge in bad habits.
7. Too much Pampering or Interfering: Like negligence too much pampering or worrying about children also can spoil the child by making them too demanding. Many parents protect their children and interfere in their activities in such a manner that when they grow up they become dependent on others or grow up as cowards.
8. Not trusting the child: Many parents believe in others more than believing their own children and many times do not even allow the child to even give an explanation. Many parents have no faith in their children and de-motivate them with their words or actions. This sort of behavior can cause a child to be a rebel or do things which they are not supposed to do.
In short, there are several signs and effects of Bad Parenting. Many kids lose self-esteem or develop bad habits or feel inhibited for the rest of their lives. Parenting is a continuous job and the children rely on parents for the same. So make it a point to take time out for children, teach them the correct mannerisms and correct them when they go wrong. When parents neglect the set rules and boundaries for children it is only natural for the kids to become brats or display unacceptable behavior. So it is your choice if you want to be a good parent or a bad one for your kid.
I think I have covered all the major signs of bad parenting. Have I left anything? Feel free to add them by way of comments.
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I agree with what you say.
I do not object to spanking although I did very little of it. I don't think there is a formula for everyone.For more or less normal people I think the biggest problem is the one of projecting ones own ambitions onto the children usually people do not realize they are doing it..
Great hub with a great description of poor parenting. Thank you for sharing!
Forever His,
Children are like clay, the way you shape them they get mend in that way........though its an unending topic....but still major points taken up.....thanks
Wonderful hub. I firmly believe you have to be what you hope your children will eventually grow up to be, not just tell them. They learn much more by watching you than they do by hearing you talk about it.
It is a hub of great lesson of Parenting.
Hi, "Liz" here, nice to meet....
Good hub, as a parent of 2 babies and a long-distance 9-year old (previous marriage,) I read some mistakes I made, but which I had noticed and corrected: Forcing Choice & Not Trusting the Child. As a mother, I want my almost-3 year old son to be obedient, listen, and learn good manners. At times, I feel I am forcing him to act a certain way, and not trusting him when he reaches for something un-child-friendly. I then notice I am being too controlling or nervous about his choice, and I relax a little--just paying close enought attention to make sure he doesn't hurt himself or others.
It is definitely hard being a parent since one is raising a little-learning person, but it is also rewarding because it is like watering a seed and watching it grow--(mostly) everyone gets excited to see the progress! If there are those who can't or don't get excited about it, either he or she (or both, as a couple) is/are not parents, or they are depressed or angry. Like I stated, raising a child (even if not your own) is hard, but there has to be some joy of parenting or counseling a child; otherwise, one shouldn't be with or around children.
Another area is asking children to do things you are not willing to do yourself - the 'do as I say, not as I do' syndrome.
Children look at actions and see through empty words very quickly.
Parenting would be easy if they came with a book, but since they do not, we as adults have to do the best by our children. After all they are our future.
As a parent I have tried to do the best by my children recognizing that each of them were very different thus needing different things as they grew up. Some needing more discipline than others.
Very good Hub. It would be lovely if all parents would READ and take advice of those that have walked before...
Thanks so much for this hub.
Very good advice and very good points.
Job of parent isn't easy and but it's a very important job.
Interesting Hub.
It's funny how there is a book on parenting rather than human nature. i child wanting to bond with his mother at night is rather natural. At 6 years old may be pushing it, but....
I personally follow no hard rules
I'm a victim of bad parenting. I 16 years old now and i'm still suffering. Bad parenting is the cause of almost every modern problems. I have a very bad temper as a result of bad parenting,which is only one of the problems.
Good stuff! I hope that more parents will be able to learn more about being a great parent. We only have today, and tomorrow our kids will be a day older. I want to spend my time wisely. Thanks for the great Hub! M
Great effort, Anamika! Parenting can be a distinct job for different people but you pretty much enunciated all elements on a general level in a way that most parents can relate to it.
Some parents think they are good in parenting. I suggest they read this so that they know if they are committing a mistake.
I have red many parenting books and this sums up many of theyre main points very well!! I do believe that what happens to an individual as a child almost always affects theyre own parenting as adults. Psychotherapy and figuring out who you are, i believe, can make a much more competant parent!!!
Liked your hub, I am always worried that I spoil my little girl with her being the only grandchild right now , that is about to change,made some very good points that I know will help with my parenting. thank you
Excellent hub.
Really enjoyed reading thanks!
This is really good advice Anamika, very useful and sensible tips. Enjoyed reading this, thanks.
I am not even a parrent I am a ten year old girl that is feeling very use less right nowi might cry my mom made me cry and said I was the worst child ever and that my brother is the best child I called my grandma and I am moving in with her she is braking my heart
@Macey Many times people speak things which they do not mean and without thinking it may hurt you. Sometimes Parents may behave badly with the kids because that is the sort of behavior they personally might have experienced as kids. Please understand that You do not become useless or bad just because someone says so. If your mother is being partial towards you then make sure that you do not let it affect you. Try to find the reasons why your mother thinks that you are a bad girl and if you think you were wrong somewhere then try to change your behavior. I would advice you to first talk it out with your mother because running away is not the solution for anything. Stay Positive and Keep Smiling! Hugs Anamika
I'm sure were all guilty of atleast one of these exspecially if you have as may kid's as i do, it is hard to give all of them what they need but i try my hardest. My children range in the ages of 15,13,11,6,and 4, My teen agers are my hardest and i tend to maybe neglect them a little more to focus my attention on my little one's. They act out alot and after reading your hub it make's me think that maybe that's why, and i should try and do something to fix that problem, so thank you this was alot of help i will for sure be following up on your hub.
I seen the worst and I seen the good. When I was growing up? My parents used to drink alot when I was younger. The staff that works at a elememtary school labeled me Emotionally Disturbance. When I got older I learn how to control it my parents always blames me for their problem when my father gets mad when I do something wrong he hits me and yells at me. Now Im 19 years old looking back wondering what I did wrong. My mother she still smoking cigerettes and my father continue his selfish ways.
Good work....In fact parenting is like a full time profession and should be taken like that....when we say that no parent is perfect and can commit mistakes....correct but should not betaken as excuse....and after some years if we see our children not grown up to the best of their abilities because of parenting negligence out of ignorance....it's no point in saying it was a mistake on the part of the parent...because these mistakes have cost heavily on to the future of the children already.....so what's the solution.....solution lies only in learning good parenting qualities continuously and applying them with examples.....that means a parent needs to set physical examples by themselves in order to make their kids learn those qualities.....it's no point in counseling a child about smoking and alcohols hazards and continue to be a chain smoker and alcoholic themselves....Parenting also means "Big Sacrifices"..... let me quote here a very important quotation....that says,..."It's very easy to be a parent but it's very difficult to parent them."Thanks.
Very good hub. Makes you think. However, most parents want to do a god job, if they make mistakes its not on purpose.
Even though I am 10000% against spanking. I would say that the problem with spanking when it comes to discipline, actually starts not when it's administered. It starts when we call it "justified" for any reason. I think that when we justify it, it becomes a problem because sometimes justifications encourage the actions, no matter how terrible they are. While calling it by its true nature, abuse, it actually discourages us and prevents us from using it. What we do is a result of our thinking process. If we change our thinking process, our experiences will change as well. The question is. Are we willing to change? Are we willing to discipline ourselves properly? If we can't discipline ourselves properly, we won't be able to discipline our kids. That's a fact. You can't give what you don't have.
Yeah my parents have every single sign on this and do not even realise it. Sigh...
Spanking is definitely a sign of bad parenting.
You can see the effects of bad parenting or poor parenting in the classroom every single day. It's one of the MAIN reasons schools fair so poorly.
As a stay at home mom of 3 ages 15, 13 and 7, I have found myself to be on that list up there. I grew up with a mom who abused alcohol and I was an only child. Parents divorced when I was 3. My mom had me when she was 16. I raised my mom. I have been lucky enough to grow up and realize that my parents did the best they could do with what ability they had. They were growing up too. I have found that the best way to talk to my kids is honestly. They know how I feel, and why. They need to know that we are human too. If I say things I don't mean, or raise my voice in anger with them over something trivial in perspective, I apologize, and explain the reason why I have done what I did. I am hoping that by doing so, it will help us be closer and teach them to take responsibility for their own actions.
Interesting Hub. I am a father of a boy and a girl and I often wonder if I am showing favoritism to either. I rationalize the different behaviors in two ways 1)boys have different needs than girls and 2) the girl is only a year and the boy is 5 years. I love both, but I can see myself in some aspect of your list. However, I am curious about something else, what about overly disciplined kids, to the point where they are on a very tight leash. I guess this would be like not trusting them, but I think there is a line there somewhere. I like Hubs that make me think, so great job! Thanks!
Nice hub which should serve as a n example for all parents to know when they are misbehaving in their duties,thanks for sharing.
Very nice hub. Thank you so much. I am 16 years old now and i am not a deep victim of bad parenting. though I'd like to emphasize on one thing I don't think you mentioned enough. *Parents being know-it-alls*. A parent can never know everything over night once they have their first baby, but has to learn from every possible way and spend money on it if necessary. Again, I'd like to thank you for taking your time out to write this. Appreciated!
I am a first time mom to my son. He is a 1 year old until now i don't how to be patience with him. Because he always to cry everytime. I am trying to be a good mom to him.
Awesome! Perfect.. I was always aware but now I know the reason why ... verry VERY helpful
I agree with your article. Although We cannot be perfect parents. There are millions of ways that we can be good parents. That however starts from us being good people. If you think about it. A good hearted person cannot really be a bad parent. An over worried one maybe. Not a bad one though. An evil hearted person though, cannot be a good parent. A good mannered to get his way with the kids, when convinient maybe. A Good Parent?. I don't think so. Most parents however, are not really bad parents. They are ill mannered maybe. But not evil.
And by the way, spanking is one of those ill manners, towards a child. I am sure they don't realize it. They might be in denial. What I am wondering is how people can live in such denial?
What do you think?
Take care anyways.
My parents practice religious something voodoo. They're apostle who's guidance by Asian God's. Question why my parents not adore my liberty's and respect my freedom. Why they'd against the united states and me so much? Could this distracte my 13 years old daughter? I am a parent of my own?
Keep it up! I actually love reading this hub!
Great Hub !!!
My mom exhibits all of the above, save for favoritism. She is very unappreciative, and lacks care for my emotions. She physically and verbally abuses me, and, when disciplining, refuses to feed me. My father just sticks to whatever she's doing, so while she's at work Dad is very loose when it comes to rules. I'm an only child, but I wish I had a sibling, so Mom would not talk to me. I typically do not want to leave school because of her. As a result of her ways, I am homicidal, diagnosed as a psychopath, have chronic depression, and am sadistic. I don't appear that way when around others of the same age (I'm 11).
I also agree that neglect and favoritism should be avoided. It can have negative effects on the children that may not be detectable until further down the road.
The you tube videos were great! I laughed so hard watching the six signs of bad parenting. She should get an acting award.
I agree with your hub. I would like to add that I think some of the problem in parenting is that many parents are just exhausted from work to even have energy to be proper parents. I think in a society when both parents have to work, the family structure can be damaged. Of course this doesn't hold for every case, I'm sure many people have worked out how to have it all. We've recently become a single income family as i gave up my career to be home with the children. Though we've had to learn how to spend our money differently, the change has been wonderful for the boys and me.
Unlicensed, un-professionally regulated private parenting should be banned permanently. It's an emotional profession of torture, control and disgusting interference and manipulation. It's an absolute humanitarian disaster on an apocalyptic scale.
Wow. Interesting and many good points brought up. These are definately signs of bad parenting, or unskilled parenting basically- parenting is tough!!! I feel strongly about the lack of boundries set for children. So many people allow their children to do whatever they want, with minimal guidance. It is sad.
i really enjoyed reading what you had to say, time i am a parent and i have def. had my mistakes and i can never take back some of the bad parenting tools i had when i was a mother after taking parenting classes and constatly updating myself in that class every year i find new things every time i go and i find more and more things about me with my parenting that are not considered bad but i would like to make better. as a mother and a single mother it is my soul responsibility to protect my child but even more protect my child from them selves and as life carried me as a young adult this was not a concept i understood till about a year ago and now that is a law in life i live by each and everyday thank you for sharing this
Every parent wants there children to be happy and grow up to be good individuals but there are times we do things that could hurt them and it hurt us too.
My parents, even though I am 16, never accept that something was done by accident, they think it is done on purpose or not done at all. This makes me think they are self-centered, which they are.
And concluding my previous comment, today, I accidentally dropped a carton of yogurt (I mean, come on, who ever does this on purpose) and my dad was screaming "you f***ing pr*ck" constantly, what do they think that's going to solve? In a way, I think it will make me a better parent in years to come as I will know how a parents actions affects the child. I believe there is a line between strict parenting and bad parenting and it may be incredibly easy to cross that line but it is avoidable.
I'm a victim of bad parenting. I'm 25 now, but when I was a teenager, my parents had me mostly convinced it was all my fault and that if I "just did ___" they would treat me better. Lies, lies, lies. After I grew up and moved out, I found out that all of my relatives were in on the fact that I had bad parents. I really, really wish I knew how to undo the emotional pain of 18 years' worth of verbal and emotional abuse, neglect, favoritism of my younger brother, not being wise with money.... You named it, they did it (except pampering, they never bothered with that one).
Parents, please-- love your kids, and apologize when something is your fault! Let my story be a warning tale. I haven't seen my parents in 3 years, and exchange emails maybe twice a year. I'm getting married next year, and they're not on the guest list.
The kids in the second video need their behinds torn apart! What little brats!
your hub is interesting and you make some good pointsand as a single father of a 4 and 6 year old i know how impresionable kids are,but you also have to let them develop there on personality and i beleive in spanking and timeout because there has to be consequence to action and to every action they have to know that you will follow threw with what you say and that you as a parent and are society put rules nd laws in place for a reason.my kidsknow there loved and they also show manners and respect,living in an urban area i often see kids in the store stealing,fighting,our society as a whole imposes laws and punishment on every person on earth.our children should learn that they are not above the rules,AND KNOW ONE IS ABOVE THE LAW.
Im a full time student and a mother to a 15 mos. old boy. I cried so hard, feeling that Im a very bad mother to my son. I lost my patience and yelled at my son to stop crying, tried so hard not to do it to him but sometimes just lost it. I feel so bad right now.
I'm 15 and my parents frequently display all of the signs listed above. They verbally and physically abuse me, and are much nicer to my twin sister. Because of them, I'm homicidal and suffer from chronic depression. If it weren't for God, I would have stabbed them and then killed myself a long time ago.
I do believe that your hub is right on target. Everyone has their different opinions on spanking and what types of punishment to give their children but your main points are all very valid and correct, in my mind. I also think that an important point to make is that parenting and discpline differs vastly between the mother and the father. When I have tried to spank my son it has no affect. It makes his aggression greater. When his dad spanks him he stands there and doesn't say or do anything and definitely DOESN'T do what he did again. I liked your hub though. :)
I have always believed in hitting and spanking . it only does the kids right . bad or not their is nothing wrong with hitting your kids. yelling ect.
I am very glad I read this article. I am helping a friend currently who has suffered a horrendous childhood. he grew up to be addicted to drugs for some years. He got clean and tried to reconnect with his mother and I have met her myself and I could not believe that a parent could be so disconcerted with their own child and unwilling to take responsibility for the terrible situations he was placed in as a child. He is trying to get his life together and it is a hard road as he suffers mental issues from his childhood. It can't be stressed enough how much a bad parent can affect their children forever. Some kids like myself can have a bad childhood and make their way but others do not cope as well. Parenting is the first frontier to productive adults in society.
I have been a victim of bad parenting. Many of the points mentioned like verbal abuse, emotional neglect, favouritism towards brother, making the child feel worthless, comparison with other children,complaining about me to outsiders, stingy about pocket money and the consequences of low self-esteem, inferiority complex, loneliness, problem in social bonding - I faced it all. It's interesting that both me and my sister have gone through psychiatric treatment for depression. Both of us are psychologically affected. But the blessing in my life is my husband. The affection and emotional understanding that I never received from my parents I receive from my husband. He treats me like child and tries his best to fulfill my every need.
I can only blame myself for how I act, what I failed, and succeeded. At age 12 I found my strength which was in sports, punching bags, anything therapeutic to get a feel of serenity within me. My behavior was quite good although my parents were breaking the home. Find your strength and use them to your advantage. I remember contemplating on whether to stay out late, or go home. I would come back every day to the latest, because I knew the adults I lived with were bad influence on me. I'll draw a picture of what I had to deal with; a mother asking her children if she should end her life. Parents who suffered from alcoholism and thinking for the present it was okay to do so. A father who told me I'll fuck*** hit you. I found myself taking sports to an extreme only to protect myself when I did come back home. Unfortunately it did follow up to par with my siblings, who are not virgins to majority of the drugs you would hear on television. My independence prospered, because I had a better parent, the greatest teacher, an epitome behind it all, which was Jesus.
I think most parents try their best, and they make mistakes along the way and learn from those mistakes. I think if your heart and mind are in the right place, if you sincerely think you are doing what is best for your child, than you aren't a bad parent...maybe misguided or uninformed, but not bad. As a parent, I generally assume everything I do is permanently damaging my three girls. I constantly worry about how I am or am not shaping who they will be as they grow older. Parenting is the most most mentally demanding job I have ever had, but I love my girls crazy and I'm sure they know that even if I make horrible mistakes.
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I agree but we are only hum man,it's very hard to be perfect. The part about not yelling in front of them can someone give me tips
Any parent who is a school teacher, should make every effort not to teach in their child's school, and especially not in the same grade. My father came to not only teach in my school, but fellow classmates in my grade. He was a very strict teacher, and not well liked. This was when I was in fifth grade. I was rejected by, and bullied by my classmates in not only fifth grade, but also in the sixth grade, when my father was no longer at the school. Some classmates continued to torment me through the eighth grade. As a result, I became extremely socially withdraw, and to this day it has ruined my life. I am now 51 years old, have never dated, and have lost my home and my job. I blame every aspect of my current failed life on my father's unwise decision to teach my classmates. Both he and my mother are long dead now, and I will never be able to discuss this with them.
Hi people,
I know many of you wouldn't even have the time to read this but still i'd like to share the kind of childhood I had.
Im 23, and all i can say is that I had a very bad childhood, even though my parents were together. I have a younger brother who is 31/2 years younger to me.
My parents used to call me vulgar names when i was a kid. I am much darker from my brother, both of them used to discriminate me on my completion calling me names probably you would only use that when ur in a fight i guess. At the age of 7 I used to so the dishes, wash my uniform, walk almost a Kilometer to get drinking water for the family. My parents really never liked me, they instead liked my cousin (she was a very cute girl, same age as mine) my brother was treated well. Anything eatable that was bought, my brother would get a bigger share and they will make it a point to mention that since he's the youngest in the family. My mother would always say this to me (same words) you will never stand for us its my son who will stand for us when we grow old. Till today those words still haunt me, those abusive names still haunt me.I always loved my parents a lot and they have no reason for them to treat me like this.Now after so many years when i ask my mother why did you do all of this to me? both of them pretend as if they don't remember anything but I STILL DO.
I was a very bright kid in studies. I loved studying and was very ambitious to become a lawyer. My parents stopped me once i completed my 11th grade (I was 17 at that time) they forced me to start working. they got help to fake my age my documents, I was so young I was shivering from within to even attend an interview. I cried, I begged them to let me study, they said that he did not have money for me to study further and if I had to get my three meals working was the only option. So i started working when i got my first salary i was so happy to give it to my parents, and when i did for all i know my father starts abusing me again saying i know you have earned more than this, you are lying to me, where is the remaining money? the truth was every penny was given to him. I was very hurt. I felt like ending my life, I felt like leaving the house so many times but i dint have the courage to do so.
At work I met a charming young man, who thought me what life was. oh I loved the life he showed me and gradually we fell in love ever since iv been with him. we're married now and im 3 and half months pregnant with our first baby. I am so happy that I met him i really thank god for him, he loved me like no has loved me ever before. In one word Im reliving my childhood that i lost.
We had a lot of problems while getting married. my parents did not want me to get married as they will loose out on a source who's earning for them. They did not help me with a single penny for my wedding nor even till today. My mother just stays 2Kilometers away from my flat and now that im pregnant I feel lonely at times, sometimes i feel like seeing them and even now they dont come to see me often but when they need money they can only think of me. me and my husband have never said no to them ever. I'm in very good terms with my brother and I consider just having two people in my world thats my husband and my brother and of course the baby on its way.
I promise that I will be a very good mom to my kids. BTW my mom used to say I will never be able to bear kids cuz when i was a kid i dint like other kids( I had an inferiority complex) which is very rude I feel, you just cant tell a 12 or 13 year old that you cannot bear kids in the future.
My mother in law is so understanding and takes care of me well.
Thats all folks all is well now, I really really hope that no one ever suffers like the way i did in my childhood
gqgirl 18 months ago
Very good hub and right on point on most things. Tho I do believe in spanking I don't believe in abuse in a child for no reason. And yes a parent who just beats their child to beat them is a bad parent. i also feel that good parenting involes some sort of disipline and a follow thru with that discipline or the same patterns will repeat themselves.