I am a Relationship Expert and have Advice for your Problems
74Am I becoming a Relationship Expert?
I am your Relationship Expert and I have answers to all your problems – I don’t think I have advertised or said anything of that sort. With the number of mails I receive everyday asking for advice on relationship issues, I guess I need to make myself clear. It is true that from my school and college days I always had friends who consulted me about their problems and trusted that I will have a solution to their problems. I too have wondered many times that what the qualities are which makes me a relationship expert. I have found the answers too.
I am a good Listener: I always have a patient ear for friends and allow them to share their problems with me without interrupting them and asking questions only after hearing it all.
I do not judge without a proper analysis: I like to hear both sides of the story and analyze the pros and cons of the problem. Even when I advice I try to present it nicely without hurting them.
Wider network of Friends: With a wide network of friends or acquaintances I always had all type of friends and have seen others experiencing or facing different types of problems and solving them or making things worse which have automatically equipped me with solutions to the problems as well.
My belief is when you have a problem the first place to look for an answer is within yourself. Also if anyone is behaving in a particular manner it is mostly because you have given the reason for them to behave that way. I am a firm believer of ‘what you give is what you get’. I am perfectly alright with my close friends coming with their problems to me. But now after seeing some of my Articles I even have complete strangers sending me mails asking for advice which makes me want to laugh. I sincerely think that such relationship advice should be left to experts and prefer not to waste my time or theirs. I even had friends in twitter asking me if i am a relationship expert as i tweet a lot on relationships.
So far I have written over 75 Articles on Relationships and have more to come. In HubPages alone I have over 40 Articles on the subject. Though I have always been good at offering relationship advice that was not a topic I have written till a few months ago. Talking on my Articles on Relationships, I wrote my first article on relationship during the first Hub Challenge which was a huge hit. It motivated me to write more on the topic. The reason why I tried writing on something which I have not written earlier was because I was fed up of hearing that ‘I have seen your articles and Blogs. You write on Hindu Mantras and Gemstones.’ I felt the need to prove that I can write about any topic and not just gemstones or Hindu religion and I don’t regret that I attempted. Now that I have quite a lot of hubs on relationships I guess I would make this a master hub for my articles on Gender and Relationships and would add more links as and when I publish new articles on the subject.
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Articles on Relationship Problems
No relationship is without problems. My friend informs me that it is the petty fights and making up which makes her love life interesting and I whole heartedly agree with her on that. But when problems of serious nature like martial infidelity and relationship boredom happens it can ruin a relationship. One way of tackling relationship problems is by keeping the communication open at all times. Also never allow boredom to creep into a relationship. Given below are some of my articles on relationship problems.
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Articles on Marriage and Mending Relationships
Marriage is a commitment. Along with Marriage comes responsibility and problems too. Many Men and women get married thinking that life is going to be a bed of roses for them only to be disappointed later. It is like a two way street and it takes the efforts of both partners to make it work and run smoothly. When problems arise the couples should aim at solving them immediately. Unfortunately even those who have taken their time to get married do not spare much time to mend the relationship when problems arise. Most couples choose the easy way out by getting a divorce or by cheating on the spouse or partner.
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Articles on Romance and Dating
With Romance and dating also comes risks, compromises and attempts to make the partner happy. Given below are some of my articles on romance and dating.
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Articles on Friendships and Work
Friendships and working relationships are an integral part of human existence. Manners and Etiquettes play an important part in maintaining such relationships. Given below are some o fmy Articles on friendships and work.
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Articles on Good Parenting and Gift Ideas for loved ones
No one can replace the parent’s role in the life of her children. The outlook that the child will form towards life depends a lot on the parents. His attitude, views, goals, perspective on life etc depend to a larger extent on what he learned from parents. So good parenting is very vital for a child’s life. Similarly, when it comes to relationships maintaining a relationship is very important. Gifts are a good way to cement a relationship.Given below are some of my articles on parenting and gift ideas.
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Articles on Addictions affecting or related to Relationships
- Why should you stop Drinking Alcohol ?
Just like smoking Alcoholism also can lead to addiction and has numerous bad effects. Alcoholism has ruined several families and lives. Newspapers are full of stories about drunken driving and families ruined by alcohol. Many people start drinking ju - Why should you stop Smoking Cigarette ?
Every one who smokes knows that ‘Smoking is injurious to health’. But did you know that Over 80 cancer giving ingredients are present in a single Cigarette? Cigarettes contain more than 4000 chemical compounds and at least 400 toxic substances. Most - Are you addicted to Pain killers like Aspirin or Dispirin
When one becomes dependent on Pain killers and cannot do without it then it can be called a Painkiller Addiction. Addictions to Anti-Depression, Anti-Anxiety and Pain Pills can cause serious health issues. It is said that 1000 tablets of a painkiller
Required Guest Bloggers on Relationship Topics
Do you write on topics related to relationships and dating and looking for some link juice? If so I am looking for Guest Bloggers for my Blog on Relationships and Dating.
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By sharing your problems with others, first they will really enjoy your problem.. and they will try to avoid such things if they face in their life..
Hi Very good Hub. Keep it up
Animika S
This is a Great hub!
You are so right when there is a problem "the first place to look for an answer is within."
The information you have shared will be quite helpful to those seeking to improve or desire a good relationship.
Thank you for sharing
Blessings
thanks for the preference guru jee
Anamika and Connie, as soon as I have my internet connected at home, will make a new website. But, this is Africa and things sometimes take a little time...
Good for ya, Anamika.
arjunjain1989,cgull8m and ruperi : Thanks for the visit and encouragement.
WHAT A WORK YOU DO?? I HAVE TO TAKE INSPIRATION FROM YOU!
Keep up the good work. There will be critics in anything we do, but we have to keep doing things as long as it makes you and others happy. Cheers.
You really are true relationship guru.I will suggest all my friends to read this hub because a lot of them going through rough patches in relationship and i guess this would help.And yea thumbs up for this page.i have become your fan.
Princessa : Yes, I do ask them to first analyze their own behavior before pointing fingers and come up with answers. Thanks for the visit.
CEN7777 : Mahesh, I am flattered that you called me Guru first. So you always have that preference.
Thats Great Anamika, Now so many peoples considering you as guru. Kiya baat hai!
I think you are an expert if the first advice that you give is to find an answer within yourself.
I cannot take seriously those people who advice and tell you what to do. I think that the most sensible thing to do is to help the person see his/her problem and try to let him or her find the answer.
I would like to be involved in that, Cindy.
Thanks for the support finsofts.
You are doing a great job, rely appreciable..
Thanks for your help for the community
564626 : Thanks for your suggestion.
cindyvine : That's a good idea. Let me know when you do so.
Hey Anamika, I am thinking of starting a website where people can post problems which we answer. Would you be interested in joining in?
Yahoo answers is filled with tons of....relationship questions.. they need true help.
Thanks a lot Connie for your visit and encouragement.
By writing about relationships, you have obviously impressed many people that you have insight into relationships. It is a big compliment that people write you for this. It means that your writing is making a difference to some people and that they trust you.
JonTutor : I am the eldest in my family and have a younger brother. I think I will pass your Offer. Thanks for asking anyway.
John Chancellor : Thanks for the vote of confidence. It is very true that one need not know all about relationships or have to experience problems to give proper advice. Yes, I try to be honest and firm too without making the person miserable than he or she already is. I feel great when close friends come with me for help. I also feel great when things work out for them. But when someone whom i know nothing about comes for a free solution to their problems sometimes i feel annoyed because i value my time and prefer to put better use of it. I will have a look at the site you mentioned.
dohn121 : You are right. Thanks for the nice comments.
Write from your heart, Animika. The rest will follow. You shouldn't feel as if you're regulated to write any one thing or several other things. Keep up the good work!
I think you have more insight than you give yourself credit for. Being able to see things objectively gives you a real valuable vantage point. Remember, you don't need to know everything about relationships, just more than the person seeking help.
The only thing that concerns me is you say you try to be gentle with everyone, trying not to hurt anyone. I have found that sometimes it is necessary to be firm, even brutally honest. My worst results is when I try to be too gentle with people.
You seem to have a gift ... so I suggest you continue to use it wisely.
If you enjoy helping people, you might sign up as an expert at allexperts.com
Were you the big sister in family?.... Do you wanna be my counsellor.
Thanks for the encouragement judydianne.
You seem to have good insight into relationships. That is why people are asking you for advice. Good job!
jackie 8 months ago
I am so confused about this situation. I was engaged and for reasons that id rather not get into we broke up and moved on. He found another girl and i am still single. His new girl lives in canada him he lives here in minnesota, Itseems like every time they are together and she leaves he comes back to me for sex and cuddling. Last night he showed up drunk and told me he is just drawn to me and he cant figure it out. What is he really saying?